Regarding that last post concerning listening:
yes. It’s a very important lesson to learn: to listen. Not just hear the words, not thinking already about what you can say to counter the argument, listen to those words being offered to you.
Yesterday I met with a fan and two american tourists at a bar, and we had a splendid conversation (about politics! Who knew!) because each of us was listening to the other.
That’s what makes communication beautiful.